WHAT ABOUT A NIGERIAN COLOUR WEDDING THEME

Weddings have gone past the traditional way of having it, In recent times wedding ceremonies has become very fashionable with creative ideas, style and embellishment. This is seen from the wedding theme, to the wedding attires, colours and decorations. We have the Christmas wedding Theme, Las Vegas wedding Theme etc; whatever, just name it, imagine it and have it depending on what you love and want.

Having a Nigeria colour wedding theme, hence flying the colours of the Nigerian flag may not be a bad idea too. You can have the bride's maids as well as your guest appear in green and white, the designs are beautiful and endless.

You can even use the colours for your bouquet and also have it styled into your wedding dress, but its advisable to use more of the white fabric with a touch of green fabric, ribbons or stones for emphasis. Totally not a bad idea.
 

Your maid of honour is not left out too.

The groom can also have a touch of green in his attire, a white shirt green tie, bow tie, sash, pocket square, boutonniere or other accessories to compliment the theme. Or simply get creative with the colours.

You can also have your center piece decor with a mix of green and white. It could be either green or white  fabric, lightening, or simply using a garden or a fine field to have nature's green vegetation and colouring as a part of your decor. I love nature...totally agreeable, you may want to start considering the Nigerian colour wedding theme.

Green and white are both beautiful colours they represent fruitfulness, nature's green vegetation and purity. I want to say congratulations to all Nigerians as we celebrate our independence today. Only Nigerians can change Nigeria, lets make it better than we met it, Nigeria @ 53 Cheers y'all

MOTHER-IN-LAWS 2 (MAKE IT WORK)

In my opinion, often times the problem always comes from the Wify. Here are my reasons;

#1. First of all, you already have that wrong mindset about mother-in-laws, and unconsciously you read meanings to anything she says or do.

#2. Some ladies are fake from the onset.

The first time they visit a guy's home, they pretend to be what they are not, for example wake up very early before everyone  else and  do the shores. Sometimes they  even do stuff they ordinarily wouldn’t have done in their own parents house, trying to impress her. Now she is impressed, she approves of you, you are now married, you did not change but decided to relax and be yourself; after all it is your home, and she too obviously thought you have changed and perceived you were pretending all along, wish seemed so if you ask me. What do you expect, she too will change because you have stopped doing all those stuff she liked about you?

#3.  Some do not come prepared

When you were thinking of the happily ever after, you needed to know this union wasn’t going to be without family members, as much as you hate it, its definitely going to happen  so you were supposed to get married knowing you are now involved with his family members.

Okay lets say you do not fall into any of the categories above but  your mother-in-law is just troublesome, and she never liked you from day one, how can you make it work?  Here is what I suggest;

-         If your husband and his siblings could put up with her all these years, you too can, remember you were able to put up with your  boss at work. Imagine she is your mum, will you just give up on her. The word is endurance, it's a virtue. 

-         Continuously show her love and respect, nobody can resist that after a while. Give her honest compliment but don’t flatter. 

-         Hang up your hang-ups: avoid doing things that will give her the liberty to talk to you harshly. Be on top of your game always and be yourself.

-         Do not compete with her in anyway or struggle for your husband’s attention with her. Never ever tell your husband how badly his mum behaves, he will find out on his own,  respect your maturity and speak to her on your behalf 
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-         Above all take it to the Lord in prayer, just like a continuous drop of water on a rock, gradually her heart will be broken and she will love you in return.

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MOTHER-IN-LAWS (ANOTHER SIDE OF THE COIN)

 

 

This is a topic many married women love to discuss and the single ladies dread but really I see no issue in it. Who really are mother-in-laws? I know you know they are the mothers to ones husband. But when the phrase is mentioned what comes to mind?

Fear – trouble- witch- lack of peace or an intruder? What really comes to your mind?

                    

This brings me back to when I was in secondary school; I and my hostel mates were having a discussion, when one of us immediately mentioned that she prays her mother-in-law to-be dies before she’ll ever meet her husband.

Waoooo I thought to myself, that was rather harsh and a barbaric mindset, but would you blame her, No! certainly not. It was the level of information she was exposed to at that time and the society we live in. I know some of you still think like my old school mate, but truth be told it is wrong. Hardly would you watch a home video without displaying the mother -in-law as a troublesome character. But is this always true, no! Is it sometimes true, yes! Your mother-in-law’s mannerism is a reflection of how you perceive her, and hence your behaviour towards her. I said this to say, if ever before you met her, or the day your man took you to his home your heart beat kept skipping, something about your disposition will send the wrong signal to her and she gets to be a little suspicious about your personality and thereby defensive.

These women are humans and they are sensitive, too once they were girls like you are, if they were sweet and fun to be with then, they will not automatically change with time and age.I am aware that some mother-in-laws' behaviour might as well be a result of their age. It is true that a younger, older and much older woman will not respond to a particular situation in the same way. Now, do you realize that you can even have a young classy updated mother-in-law? Gone are those days when women were not educated, today women are schooled and they are busy running their enterprise and have no time to move into your homes to monitor you as you think. Like I often tell people whatever you fear will come to you, just like the man Job in the bible. And even if you get to meet a troublesome mother-in-law, who says she can not become sweet? Why give up on her or pray for her bad? Remember you too will also be a mother-in-law someday and that daughter-in-law of yours will pray for your bad too.

In my opinion, the problem often time begins from the wify......to be continued (Tomorrow I will give my reasons as regards the statement above and how you can make it work) 

 

DORIS SIMEON NOW IN THE GAME OF MARRIED MEN

Culled from chat 212 news

 

Report - Dog eat dog is the name of the game in the entertainment industry in Nigeria as some of the ladies often go to battle with themselves in the dirty game of cheating. You just can’t afford to support anyone or take sides with one of these ladies as the good wife you are taking sides with might just be getting screwed by another woman’s husband secretly… As such, we are not taking the latest gist in town about actress Doris Simeon with the pinch of salt. 

Doris has been lonely for sometime now courtesy of her husband, Daniel Ademinokan, dumping her for fellow actress and mother of two kids, Stella Damasus, under controversial circumstances. Many had thought that Doris would move on and settle down with a single guy since she is still kind of young but that doesn’t seem to be the case. We learnt Doris is now “enjoying” herself with a rich Newspaper Editor, who is married with children and some say the man’s wife has already gotten wind of the amorous affair. She is said to be planning a “surprise” for Doris and her husband in one of their usual hot-spot. If true, we hope Doris Simeon will end this ‘drama’ before it causes her more trouble.

WHAT'S A GIRL GONNA DO

I feel very excited to write about this, it's an issue that cuts across many ladies old, middle age, young and from different works of life. A career lady, a business lady, or a student (by student I mean one in the university and not under aged secondary school girls. So if you are following my blog this post isn't for you, so sorry sweetie).

This topic is more like a follow up one of my post "EVERY BODY HAS THEIR OWN ROBIN" but strays away a bit because though it involves someone you're in love with but the difference here is that you are a lady and you don't know if it's right to let him know how you feel. Okay let's get in.

What's a girl gonna do when she finds out she's in love with a man. Now this is not just some guy you met, could be an old school mate you grew up with, your team mate or close colleague in the office,  your landlord's brother, even your best friend. The thing is that unconsciously you got so used to him that you fell in love with him without noticing and sadly he doesn't know.  At the sound of your ring tone or phone's notification you are hopeful the message or call is from him, when you hear his voice from afar you unconsciously starts arranging your look, when he passes by a smile breaks from your lips, when he gives you that friendly hug you wish it will last a little longer. Agreed you are in love with your friend from afar, and it's killing you inside because he has no idea and can't see the green light or read the signs and of course he is insensitive to your needs. Sometimes you are sad and cannot explain why, even when he is the one asking. How can you tell him you have been nursing a feeling in your heart for him? How will you start? How will it sound? Will he laugh? Will his friends giggle foolishly when he tells them? Will your girlfriends call you stupid? 

 

This might be okay in some part of the western world seeing how modern civilization and technology has taken over, a girl can practically woo a guy on a social media platform even directly in some countries but this is still a no! no! and definitely frowned at in Africa and Nigeria precisely, our culture expects the man to make the move always. I asked one of my male friends about this issue and in his words he said "I'm yet to see a naija babe that has successfully said it first without sounding desperate" Could my friend be right? Is this a case about her race? Is it about the way she relates/says it? or is it about the recipient (the naija guy)? You see one can also be wrong in their ability to decoding what was said and might perceive it as wrong, not necessarily because what was said was wrong.

What's a good girl gonna do really when she finds out she is in love with a man. (Reminds me of one of my favorite Bollywood movie.."Kuchi Kuchi Hotai") Your pride and dignity is at stake, yet you can't help this feeling and you are afraid of losing him someday. Maybe one day he will jokingly tell you about the girl that has caught his fancy. 

Hmmmmmmm what would you rather have her do, I mean a decent girl in this condition. Could she talk to him? Would that be right? What would her mama say... is she out of her mind? And also what kind of a relationship would it be, if she makes the move. Lets air our views and I will tell you what I think.

I'M MY OWN LOVER

I am tall, dark, rich, handsome, quite young, with a good job, a nice car, and I live in a fabulous apartment, you can call it my own heaven, I've got the money but not to throw around....what more could a decent girl want from a decent man?......you ask yourself in your head. Well brother your thoughts are coming out loud that I can even hear them. The issue is not what the lady isn't seeing but its actually what you are seeing. I think you are seeing too much of yourself,  behind all those I am an Okay guy or Mr Right guy bragadocious thoughts, I hear some pride and maybe arrogance and it just tells me you are your own lover.

Okay Sisi you have been wondering when your big day will come, when you'll have Royalty Okasions plan your wedding, but they all never seem to proposed. Have you asked yourself why?  this is your forth relationship and he too is acting strange, may likely leave like the previous three. You are blaming everyone else but yourself. He cheated on me with my friend, he is too ruling and demanding Gosh! I got angry and walked away, he never called me back, what are my to do, beg him...no way! what does he take me for.....like am begging for a date. It's fine we've all heard you and I'm sure you heard yourself too,  same problem, you are your own lover. 

I'm my own lover? You see its good to acknowledge and celebrate yourself, your  various success and achievements in life but do this with care, esle you now think you are too good for your date or someone. The girls aren't coming or are always running away because all through the date you spent time talking about how successful you have been and almost intimidated them with your cv of your success  story, that she didn't know how to begin talking about herself. She may find your profile too high for her status and later draws back and you are wondering why. Oh you thought you put up a good show that should have impressed her....hehehehehe. 

My lady, you are not really the problem, but you are at the same time. A man wants to be honoured, wants to be respected, they couldn't put up with your character and then found the easiest and most minimal excuse to walk out of your life. Maybe your friend was also a route.  And I must say this, ladies try to give out that same thing you want from a man, if he offends you and apologises  why don't you reciprocrate when the ball its on your court. It doesn't matter, who says yes ma to you at work, you have to drop all those egocentric attitude and be a homely lady for what is worth to your man. Know that I am not judging you but that I'm also talking to myself as I write.

Personally I measure my sucess especially when its target based and encourage myself to do more, but not a lover of self. If you don't treat this decaying attitude as good/perfect as you think you are, you might aswell be your own lover and then lonely. Do not be like the rich man in the bible who looked at his success , thought he had arrived and pride grew in his heart, that same night his soul was required of him. Once you really love someone, you don't compete with them, you drop everything you think you are or have and just love. Love its for two don't hold back,  be free, make room for your partners excesses and you might just be the next on our wedding list...yeah you...*wink*

EVERYONE HAS THEIR OWN ROBIN

Hello peeps, I found this pics on one of my liked pages on Facebook and thought to share with you, cause am sure everyone can relate with it, one way or the other. it's either you have a Robin or you are someone's Robin. Could this be true, does everyone really have their own Robin, Johnson, Thomson and what have you?

Have you been there before?  Are you still there? Does it apply to everyone. ..lets discuss this! share your views below.

GIVE IT A KISS

I am sure you might be wondering what we are giving a kiss, well it's not the KISS  that you are thinking about. KISS here is an acronym for:

K- Keep
I- It
S- Simple &
S- Short

Now I'm suggesting that you give your bridal makeover a KISS. The bridal makeover is one of the most important aspect of the occasion for the bride because she wants to look stunning and at  her best. So many brides go as far as hiring a makeup artist to bring out that special beauty in them. My point exactly, whether you are getting a makeup artist or you are doing it yourself however the case maybe, give it a simple and fine appearance. Bridal makeovers are not meant to be loud and too sharp, just as your dress is just white and not loud and distracting but  basically highlighting your essentials.

The eyes is said to be the window of the soul and a lot of attention is usually given to it. By a lot of attention I do not mean too many eye shadow but this attention involves proper clearing or sharpening of eye brows, light application of eye shadow and a simple eye liner. The whole idea is for your to have that simple, charming, angelic and tender look. If you must use an eyelash for a more dramatic look, avoid the very long and and heavy strip eyelash such that your eyes are barely seen. Your wedding day is not the day for you to look like a cat or a plastic doll......lol. Just like the eyes, keep the lip stick application simple and short, use mild but attractive colours. Natural lipsticks that suit your facial colour should be used.

Once you can keep it simple and short you are sure to look great and very natural.  Remember to tell your makeup artist to give it a KISS.

Just a quick one any ideas why the bridal makeovers for traditional marriage are mostly deep or heavy?

WORK OUT >>>>> TO FIT IN <<<<<<.

So everything is in place, so your dress has been delivered already and its 2months to go. all preparation has been made and you are counting down months or weeks to say "I Do". Now what about your dress really?

It's very possible to gain some more pounds before that day and this might cause some inconvenience for you while wearing that beautiful gown. The last thing you need on your big day is to feel uncomfortable, you have to look smart and elegant in that beautiful dress to become the envy of your friends. To achieve this is simple, Work out to Fit in.

1. Register in the closest gymnasium near you and go for your work out consistently

OR

2. If you can discipline yourself, you need not visit the gym or get a trainer. Apart from your regular free or spot jogging, you can do some simple home fitness or flexibility exercise to increase your energy level and stamina as well as to keep you in shape. It's all about fitting firmly into your dress,
and if you ask me, to remain so afterwards...*lol*

Here are 25 fitness exercise obtained from "acefitness.org" to help you achieve this.

	1. Supermans Who doesn't want to think they have super powers?  Great stretch as well when you picture trying to touch the opposing walls with your fingers and toes.   View Exercise »
	2. Push-up The Push-up is an oldie but goodie.  You can modify intensity by changing hand placement.  View Exercise »
	3. Contralateral Limb Raises Don’t let the name scare you – this is great for toning those troubling upper body areas.   View Exercise »
	4. Bent Knee Push-up A great starting option if you struggle with the correct form using a full Push-Up.   View Exercise »
	5. Downward-facing Dog Slow and controlled movement very important – wonderful calf stretch. View Exercise »
	6. Bent-Knee Sit-up / Crunches Most people don’t know how to perform a proper sit-up/crunch – that is until now.  Core Power!  View Exercise »
	7. Push-up with Single-leg Raise A great progression from a regular Push-Up but remember to keep proper form. View Exercise »
	8. Front Plank This is harder than it looks!  Your back and abs will love you. View Exercise »
	9. Side Plank with Bent Knee Great way to add in hips work without the need for any equipment other than your own body weight. View Exercise »
	10. Supine Reverse Crunches Advanced crunch that targets the entire core region.  If you feel pain in your back – STOP.   View Exercise »
	11. Cobra This is my “good morning, time to wake up” exercise – great way to get ready for a busy day.    View Exercise »
	12. Squat Jumps A bit of heart rate work while working on total body movement.   View Exercise »
	13. Forward Lunge If I could only do one leg exercise for the rest of my life, a lunge would be my choice.  View Exercise »
	14. Forward Lunge with Arm Drivers Start with the regular lunge and work up to this advanced exercise hitting some core areas.    View Exercise »
	15. Glute Activation Lunges Often missed, this Gluteus workout is the MAXIMUS.   View Exercise »
	16. Glute Bridge Real people do yoga – and this is a great entry exercise to the power of slow and controlled movements.    View Exercise »
	17. Hip Rotations (Push-up Position) I’ve always had problems finding a good hip exercise – do this before any push-up exercises so you can stabilize your body before fatigue. View Exercise »
	18. Side Lunge Advanced in terms of needing to include some movement into what becomes a static pose.    View Exercise »
	19. Side Lying Hip Abduction A common mistake is raising the leg too high in this exercise.  Small but effective movement.    View Exercise »
	20. Side Lying Hip Adduction Even smaller movement than Abduction but equally important.    View Exercise »
	21. Side Plank (Modified) Advanced exercise that brings together a combination of core exercises.  If you feel joint pain, STOP. View Exercise »
	22. Side Plank with Straight Leg Don’t forget to breathe on this exercise – exhale on the exertion.    View Exercise »
	23. Single Leg Stand I do this one while brushing my teeth in the morning – some call it crazy, I call it multi-tasking. View Exercise »
	24. Standing Calf Raises - Wall My shins are my weak points, thus finding a great exercise like this to improve that area is important.    View Exercise »
	25. Supine Pelvic Tilts May not look like an abdominal exercise, but you will feel the burn after a set of these.   View Exercise »   Good luck guys...

CONTROVERSIES ON APOSTLE ANSELM MARRIAGE TO KENYA GOSPEL ARTIST EMMY (IN: WEDDING PHOTOS)

On Saturday August 31, 2013 General overseer Apostle Anselm Madubuko, 55, of Revival Assembly and his Kenyan wife, Emmy Kosgei , 33, walked down the aisle. It was a huge and beautiful occasion, thanksgiving also held in Lagos Nigeria. Below are the wedding pictures;

However there had been some murmuring and controversies about the union by different people. 

* Some complained about the loudness and flamboyancy of the wedding for a second marriage of the apostle. 

* Others about the age gap between the newly wedded.

* For some they were concerned about the wedding dress worn by the Kenyan singer who is now a wife of a pastor and is to show good example to the brethren 

* The most of the complaints is that it was too early for the apostle to remarry. 

In an interview held before the marriage, Apostle Madubuko explained why he is remarrying so soon,exactly one year since his wife, Connie died. 

here is his statement;

''It is how i have chosen to do it. I have decided to move on. I found out that even 10 years will not be enough to forget my late wife,20 years still will not be enough to forget my late wife.The time anybody remarries has nothing to do with your former partner.And that's one thing people fail to understand.We were married for many years,and suddenly,I was left alone.it's about many things, companionship.I also want more children''
 

Hmmmmmmm as long as you are a public person and you make your events very public, it becomes everybody's business and Nigeria in their usual manner must talk...

Now what's your take on this issue  

PHOTOS OF DAVIDO'S SISTER'S WEDDING IN MIAMI (SHARON ADELEKE)

It was colourful and smashing yesterday 1st Sept 2013 in Miami, Florida at the wedding of Davido's elder sister, Sharon Adeleke as she said "Yes I do" to Yomi Ademefun. 

Sharon was in a beautiful wedding dress which features a V-neckline and a dramatic ball skirt. She completed the look with an elegant chignon, diamond drop earrings and wait for it, a diamond encrusted bouquet.Yomi complemented his wife in a black single button tuxedo. 
 

Later in the evening, Sharon changed into an embellished white dress with a feathered skirt.

Guests present at the ceremony include Koko Master D’banj, stylists Veronica Ebie-Odeka and Remi Fagbohun, media personality Gbemi Olateru-Olagbegi, fashion designer Kunbi Oyelese, business mogul Aliko Dangote, music stars B-Red and May D as well as music producer Shizzi.

Gbemi Olateru-Olagbegi, Sharon Adeleke & Veronica Ebie-Odeka

Gbemi Olateru-Olagbegi & Aliko Dangote

D’banj & May D

Davido & Shizzi

B-Red & D’banj

Congratulations to the newly wed.